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May-December Cougar relationships more of a myth, study says
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by Joseph Ernest August 19, 2010
Newscast Media --When we think of cougars, names like Elizabeth Taylor, Joan Collins or Demi Moore come to mind. However, a study of online dating, by the University of Wales Institute, Cardiff (UWIC), found men and women are still rather traditional when it comes to searching for their ideal partner. Women generally seek an older and, therefore hopefully, wealthier man, according to the UWIC study. Men, on the other hand, desire a young and attractive female, and often prefer a much younger partner as they themselves age.
The problem women find when they are with younger men is that these men aren't yet established in life, and high quality women tend to gravitate toward men who demonstrate high value. When men are in their twenties and thirties, they really haven't acquired much in life, however, men in their late forties, fifties and sixties, have paid their dues and have accumulated a few assets and wealth, which raises their status in the eyes of women. A younger man may make a woman feel beautiful, or even take her out to dinner using his credit card, but the older guy who pays in cash and appears more of a father figure will eventually displace the young cat, who may be looking for not just a girlfriend, but a mother figure.
Manly Men
The most important quality that women look for in men are "manly" men. Most younger men today are raised to be effeminate or androgynous, the word is "metrosexual" since that is what society promotes. Men often apologize for being manly, and some men even ask their wives for permission just to step out of the house. This is something that contradicts the nature of courtship since women tend to desire men who can take charge of pretty much any situation. It's not unusual for a couple to go to a restaurant and when the menu arrives, the woman asks the guy what he will eat and he answers, "I'll eat what ever you choose." A display like that indicates to the woman the man she is with is a wuss. Story continues below
Older Men
As for older men, they tend to gravitate toward younger women. The qualities that men look for in women are waist-to-hip ratio, the shape of the eyes, the skin tone, because these attributes symbolize fertility. Men are genetically programmed to want to pass on their genes, and women understand this very well that's why they spend hours in the morning putting on make-up to look young and attractive in the eyes of men. If you look at the concept of lipstick, its purpose is to fool men into believing blood is actually flowing through the lips of a woman. The same applies to blush that women rub against their cheeks. They do this because they know life is in the blood and men are attracted to women who are full of life and are capable of reproducing.
Naturals
Now there are men who are "naturals" and are about three percent of the male population. These men understand women. They never hit on women, instead let the women chase them. Women find these men attractive because they present a challenge to women. This segment of men are the only exception to the rule. These men have no problem turning down a beautiful women for a date, because they will be busy folding their socks in the drawer, or ironing their ties.
When they get a woman's number, they don't call her right away like the AFC (Average Frustrated Chump), these free flowing naturals will call after about five days. Every guy knows a woman whom he was interested in, but the woman was interested in some other guy who could care less about her. You may also know a woman who broke up with a guy because she needed "space" only to bump into her two weeks later, she was holding hands with the ex-boyfriend she swore she hated and was the scum of the earth. How do you think that happened? You see what women want, is different from what women respond to, and every woman responds to a challenge.
Research Findings
Psychologist Dr Michael Dunn of UWIC's Cardiff School of Health Sciences led a study which involved analyzing the age preferences of 22,000 men and women using online dating sites across 14 countries and two religious groups.
"A critically important consideration for advertisers on online dating sites appears to be the age of a potential partner," Dunn said in a statement.
He said it was a commonly held assumption that with the advent of female financial independence, women were now free to target men of any age group, as securing financial security from older, wealthier males was no longer a priority.
Dunn said a strikingly different pattern of age preferences was evident in men.
Younger men, aged 20 to 25, either targeted females their own age or marginally younger. But as males aged, they clearly expressed a preference for women increasingly younger than themselves, with this pattern also being cross-culturally consistent.
"These findings are clearly supportive of evolutionary theory," Dunn added. "A wide variety of evidence has shown that women, when considering a potential long-term partner, focus more than males on cues indicative of wealth and status and these logically accumulate with age.
"Males conversely focus more intently on physical attractiveness cues and these are clearly correlated with the years of maximum fertility." Add Comments>>
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